|We shouldn’t mix trust and self confidence here. Selfconfidence can be deceiving, as it may lead us not to see that we should learn to be better. Trust is understanding, that we don’t know everything, we are not great in everything, but that we can learn to be better. And eventually to reach the success we want to have. Trust also carries us over those moments, when life hits us hard and even our selfconfidence is having cracks.
|People who trust themselves have on great advantage. When others say ”you cannot do that” or ”you are not good enough”, they know that even that other person might be right today, there is a way to change the situation. Trust gets us to win the war, even we would have lost a battle. How to build trust, how to learn to trust oneself?|
|Trust is an emotion, like any other. Most of the time we actually don’t lead our emotions intentionally. They are something arising from the moment and from our past experiences. The big lesson learnt from those, who survived the concentration camps during WWII, is that we can choose our emotions and reactions. This is called resilience, ability to recover after a set back. Resilient people have understanding of their emotional intelligence. They know what personality features to use in order to recover. Some of us know more of our personality by nature, most of us benefit of assessment.
|The reason why we benefit for assessments is coming from the point of how we have been raised. Our parents, and people around us, have talked to us about the ”right way”. The problem with that ”right way” is that it may well have been the right way for them. But we people are different. In most cases that one solution doesn’t work out for the other person. Actually, that is part of natures way, creating variations. We are the outcome of our parent, but not clones.|
|Building trust is not an overnight training. It requires micro steps daily. It is not about being flawless. It is about learning. People who trust themselves are asking themselves the question ”what here is for me to learn?”. A lesson learnt is building understanding and trust.|
|I have been training car sales people. The most likely to fail in the profession were those, who had extreme selfconfidence. Those who trusted, that they could learn to master the skills, went all the way. The others disappeared from the business pretty fast. When you trust yourself, you can also trust others. And that is what builds success.
|Trusting others means putting oneself vulnerable. Because there will be people whom you trust, and they turn out not to be worth your trust. Successful people convert that to learning more about people for the future. Giving up trust to others is giving up your future.|
|I love the proverb ”Failure is not lethal, but failure to change might be”. When you are ready to accept, that there will be failures, then you can build your trust in you.|
|In the previous article I share something from my life with you. That was also the soil for trust. As I lived through that moment, I sure would be able to live through other tough situations. When you want to build your trust to higher level, I have to tools to help you. Get in touch, lets talk about building your future to better success.|