Questions inspire passion. Passion delivers commitment and engagement, the root causes of success. Are you ready to ask questions, and more so, to listen to answers to understand where the passion is hiding?
The value and meaning of your work / study is what keeps you going. The feeling one gets when your work is noticed, when a goal is reached, is the reward we look for and we all deserve. We all know, how people who are passionate about something, get exceptional results. What ever your goal is, passion always helps. If you are looking for personal development or learning, passion will take you there. If you are looking to get other people to do things or to learn something, when you get them passionate about it, they will get there. Why don’t we use passion, why don’t we ignite passion? Why are we not taking the benefits passion will deliver? There are a couple of reasons for that. Let us look at them!
What are we afraid of in passion? The answer might be surprising. Passion has carried a risk in it in the past. It gets us to try out new things. It can even invite danger to us. Passionate people have also been a threat to us. Those in rage show emotions in very passionate way. We have been wired to limit passionate behaviour to moments when that is needed for our protection. At the same time we admire great artists and divas and limit ourselves from the alike behaviour. Our brain hasn’t changed, even the world has. In contemporary world we could, and should, use passion as a source for achievement and engagement.
We’ve now established the biased way our brain sees passion. The good news is, that our brain is something we can lead. And, as the world has evolved, we also should. The automated reaction and preferences that got the human beings where we are now, are often outdated. How can we change the situation? Perhaps you even think, why should you change the situation? The answer to the second one, why, comes from your personal goal, your legacy. If you want to live a calm and no stress, no big emotional reward life, then passion is not for you. You can still enjoy as other people reach something and share their passion. BUT, if you want to leave a legacy, if you want to achieve something special, then you really should take the advantage passion gives you.
Passion is a process. It starts with setting a goal. It is kept alive with noticing and celebrating the sub-goals achieved during that journey. Does your brain say ”no, that is bad behaviour, bragging”? This is what many of us feel. I’ve had that feeling. There has been moments, when I’ve shown passion about my doing and people have attacked me on it. That still does have an impact on me. But I can overcome that! So can you. This is how to do it; first, have small goals that you can reach in a month or less. Make a personal promise, that as you reach that goal, you will give yourself a treat. Second, think of a person, who doesn’t put your down (pretty many grandparents are great in this). Practice with this person sharing and showing your passion. You will very soon feel the power of the passion in your soul.
The funny thing about our brain is that at the very same time it wants to keep us safe and the rewards of achievement. You choose, which one you nurture. Daring to nurture the reward side is about feeling passionate about something. Just make getting the rewards a habit. The more you do, the faster your brain starts to accept living a life with passions and achievement. This is also known as emotional intelligence, the skill of leading our emotions, feelings and eventually behaviour.
Passion never comes from external sources. It also never is just the end. Passion is the journey, which gives you the reward at the end. And many rewards during the journey. If you would like to get the benefits of passion faster and reach higher results, let me help you. With emotional intelligence based coaching you can build your personal way of finding passion and enjoying the results of it. Get in touch right away, let us talk about the opportunities you have, the gains there are!
Your partner in creating your success, Kari I. Mattila, emotional intelligence advisor